Journey to China – Part One

This baby has been around the world. And I can’t speak for him/her, but China was one of my favorite experiences. Here are the highlights.

Starting my journey from our little “international” airport in Illinois. Warning: my color scheme is going to stay pretty consistent throughout the trip. It’s a Chinese packing secret.

I arrive at the hotel. It is the next day at 6 pm Beijing time, and I have been traveling for 18 hours. I settle in with a pot of white jasmine tea in the hotel lobby and plan to stay up another four hours to curb the jet lag. The tea was delicious, but I was dismayed by the price tag – almost nine US dollars – until they gave me a jar of tasty macarons, flavored strawberry, lemon, and green tea. After I polished them off, I looked down and my belly is covered in little specs of pink, yellow and green macarons. It’s officially a crumb catcher.

I have a conference call before bed about 10:30 pm. My head is pounding, and the jet lag is starting to affect my brain function. Well that or all of these switches to choose from to turn out the nightlight.

This small bookstore had no less than twenty copies of the Steve Jobs autobiography and five advertising banners located throughout.

I am visiting just before the Spring Holiday (or Chinese New Year). Here is a group celebrating early with an impressively coordinated line dance. The concierge calls their “Happy Dance”. In this part of China, it is well below zero.

These columns are made entirely of blocks of ice and lights. They were breathtaking.

And now my tour guide, Mr. Lei, is bounding up and down the Great Wall, while I am huffing and puffing it. Photographs are an excellent excuse to stop and catch your breath. I take almost a hundred.

Well, there were steps for a while. And then, you are climbing broken limestone and chunks of ancient rice. Yes, that is correct. According to Mr. Lei, the only thing keeping the wall together is old sticky rice.

We are now 1100 steps up the wall. Mr. Lei asks if I want to climb the next part, which steeply rises up with no remaining wall to brace against. I point to my “crumb catcher” and tell him it’s probably not safe in my condition. (Save!) That’s when he first notices I am pregnant.* And down we go.

On the drive back from the Wall (it takes 1.5 to 2 hours from Beijing), we stopped at a Cloisonne that makes these beautiful Chinese vases and platters. They show you how they bend and then affix these tiny copper strips into small patterns on the vase and fill them in with enamel.

*I was fascinated by everything I learned about the culture. First, Chinese are particularly protective of pregnant women. Several noted – in a friendly way – that women don’t travel when they are pregnant. Oops.

One piece of advice I will try to take with me is that the Chinese believe that after birth, the woman must rest as much as possible and drink low sodium soup for at least one month to recover. True Chinese wisdom.

Also, most women return to work after they have a child and the grandparents provide child care. The Chinese women were particularly interested in how we also manage a career and children. It was topic that – despite some vast differences in culture – put us, at least during that conversation, on one single plane.

My New To Do List

It is perfect.

New Mommy Love by Farrah

I call them the First Years. No, not law students or firm associates. They are the First Year, First Time Mommies.

Although I just graduated to a Second Year, I love catching up with the First Years. And Farrah Pepper is one of my favorites. I met her at a work conference, and I only get to see her once a year, but when I do, the world is a sweeter, funnier, smarter place. Farrah also has great taste, so when she told me about her new mommy must haves, I knew they would be good. And they are.

A sheet of monthly onesie stickers. What is that (I had to ask)? You put the sticker on the onesie and take a picture to document your new baby’s journey through the first year.

Aren’t these ties absolutely adorable?

Skinnygirl Margarita by (former Real Housewife of New York) Bethenny Frankel. Farrah keeps a bottle of this at home at all times for impromptu entertaining. 100 calories per serving and just add lime. Yum.

Chewbeads for mommy and baby. Necklaces are my favorite accessory, but they are tough to wear through the teething phase. Farrah told me that this was only necklace she wears around the baby.

And, like myself, Farrah is obsessed with Trumpette socks. Her eight month-old, Lila, wears the Jennys, Maryjanes and Pixies. For summer, check out the Tillys, a strappy sandal. Swoon!

The mother’s prayer by Tina Fey. This is fantastically funny and poignant. I also got a little teary.

So, what are your new mommy must haves?

Batches of Time

How do you do it all? Well, I’ve tried, and I can’t. But I can eek out a little more time here and there with a life saver called batching.

Here is how I batch during the week:

Sunday. I have a hanging wall pocket in my tot’s room, with one pocket for each day of the week. On Sunday, whenever I am up in her nursery, I populate these pockets with wee wittle outfits. I usually make it up to Thursday before I have to perform other more glamorous tasks, such as changing a diaper.

Monday. When I am pouring the tot’s cereal into a bowl to prepare for breakfast, I make up two or three more bowl, add lids, and stack them in the cubbard. I do the same with tot’s bottles.

Wednesday. I come home to my beautiful mother-in-law making dinner in our home. She cooks enough for us to eat throughout the rest of the week and still a night out. (I didn’t say I do it all by myself.)

Friday. Once a month or so, I take a couple of hours of vacation from work to run errands or get a pedi. I save up several errands at a time, and do my thing. To me, it’s like a mini vacation with a built in sitter.

Saturday. During naptime, I escape into my home office to open mail and pay bills for the week. Bonus if I get in a little internet shopping or post inspiration.

A Real Arm Smoother

Tiny little bumps like to populate the skin on the top of my arms, so I am religious about using this wonder lotion to smooth things over: Lac-hydrin 5. Tip: you can find it at your local Walgreens, but it is half as expensive to buy online.

Slim Chin

Bronzer hides a multitude of sins. The one I like to hide is that extra little chin emerging underneath the first one. So, I swipe a nice matte bronzing powder right under the bone and blend outward so that everyone is crystal clear that there is only one slim chinny chin chin on this babe.

Good bronzers? Nars, Bare Escentuals, and of course, the iconic Guerlain Terracotta.

And behind every great bronzer is an even greater brush- the secret weapon to getting that natural chin look. I like B.E.’s kabuki brush or Sonia Kashuk at Target as affordable options, but Laura Mercier makes fantastic ones as well.

Can I Wear This to Work?

If the question is, “Can I wear leopard print to work?” then the answer is yes, even if it is a little itty bitty skinny belt.

By the way, if you are carrying a few extra pounds, then a longer boyfriend jacket with a belt around it does just the trick. To keep it from being frump frump, make sure that the skirt is not too long in proportion to the jacket.

Tory Burch knit boyfriend jacket, J. Crew skinny belt, Tahari dress, Nine West shoes, Anya Hindmarch Naplack Carker bag.

Church Mommy: Fuzzy Wuzzy

Crazy week! I am behind at work, at home, and the blog. I’ve also fallen off the exercise wagon and gained five pounds that I can no longer write off as water weight (my sheath dresses don’t lie, ugh). Despite this, I was determined not to skip out today. Here is my outfit for church, which I took weekend before last (because we also skipped this past Sunday).

Fuzzy gray J Crew cardigan (which frankly looks better belted – there’s nothing like adding a few visual pounds of maribou feathers on top of a few actual pounds courtesy of the Girl Scouts). Black silk shell by Theory, black knit pleated skirt by Brooks Brothers, Calvin Klein gray patent pumps. The necklace is fun, versatile, and was about $30. I found at ArtsWork when I lived in Le Claire.

And baby’s outfit? All Matilda Jane! Shoes by PediPed;)

High-Tech Tuesday: Are iPhones Bad for Babies?

Fisher Price is not concerned. They are making cases so your tot doesn’t wreck your phone.

One of my girlfriends had twins shortly after my own child was born. She was the first to warn me that handing your phone to your baby just to placate him is like handing over five one-hundred dollar bills (yes, that’s $500) and crossing your fingers that the baby doesn’t shred it. And babies do love the iPhone. Ours is like a zombie once she sees a flash of my white bumper. She must have it, just short of tearing my eyes out and turning blue, red, and purple. Here, she is extremely happy, having secured both our iPhones:

My own mom wisely said once that video games – in moderation – were good for children. She must have known that one day those gamers were going to rule the military. In fact, we just had lunch with a partner I used to work for in the city, and he brought his 16 year old son who is seriously brilliant and seriously planning on making his millions on video game design.

My father generously bought each of his granddaughters (including mine) an iPad when our baby was six months old. And she LOVES it. But, I think the jury is still out on the whole baby-iPhone thing. If the peds are scared s**tless about letting children under two watch television, I am certain that iPhones and iPads are next on the list.

By the way, Baby Piano HD is awesome.

High Tech Tuesday: Toodledo App

I have been blogging for about a year and some months. I have spilled my guts about home life, including a robbery and nanny trauma. I have revealed a few slivers about my job and professional life (although I do respect the privacy of my colleagues and the company, so I keep that to a minimum). But, it is time I do tell you a little secret.

I am a techno-nerd. I have loved technology since my dad brought home a Commodore 64. My first job was selling computers in a cow-spotted building. Even though I later morphed into an attorney, I have been fortunate enough to carve a niche for myself in the tech world and maintain gadget girl status.

Now that you know, it’s time to talk tech on JHS. Lord knows I have tried it all… (Remember the Palm Pilot? The HP Jornada? The iPaq) Today, I am not complete without the three main technology food groups: the iPhone, iPad, and the Macbook Air.

Behold Toodledo.

I have been experimenting with the Toodledo App for the iPhone for about six months. Even though I have strayed for short chunks of time to try new to do lists (even the classic low-tech paper), I always seem to come back. Here’s why:

– You can use the app, or work from a web browser. It syncs instantly.
– You can zero in on critical tasks by using the hot list. For example, if something is due today or tomorrow, even if the priority is low, it will show up on this list.
– You can create project folders and organize by contexts, which is huge if you are into David Allen’s Getting Things Done (GTD).
– You can track time (hellllloooo Outside Counsel!)
– You can choose between email reminders, SMS reminders, Twitter… you name it; it out-features almost every other online to do list.
– It is very simple to use. The learning curve is nil.

Are you a gadget person? Wanna see more tips on leveraging tech to save time? Let me know, and I’ll turn this into a regular post.